Things to talk about on a first date

First dates can be a source of anxiety for just about anyone – even the most confident among us! Keep in mind that there are certain topics you should definitely avoid—at least until you know each other a little better. We’ll tackle what not to talk about in the next article.

If you don’t want to be at a loss for words when you’re sitting across from your dream date, here are some great topics you can add to your repertoire when the conversation hits a lull:

  1. Have a sense of humor

    Dates are about having fun, and first dates, doubly so. If you can share a few laughs it will make for a memorable occasion. If you don’t consider yourself to be a “funny guy”, think about learning a few jokes in advance and get ready to light up his smile.

  2. Don’t make it feel like an interview

    Getting to know somebody will always involve asking questions. Asking what he is looking for in a guy is okay but try to keep it light. Frame your questions...
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How can you tell if you have finally found Mr. Right?

We are raised to believe that the best of everything can be ours. But when it comes to finding a partner, does this really apply?

When asked what they really want, many men will say that they are on a mission to find the most handsome guy, a sexy body with six-pack abs, the biggest penis, the richest, the most successful, and so on.

So, when you eventually meet someone that clicks, do you find yourself questioning whether or not he is ‘The One?’

It’s not an uncommon scenario. However, these wants/needs are a lot to live up to. In many cases, they are actually unattainable – at least in the way that you imagine. Once you find your perfect match, they may fulfill all these needs in ways that are much different than you originally would have defined.

With this idealist mentality, you could end up chasing rainbows and eventually end up unable to completely commit yourself to someone because you will always be wondering. Is there someone better? Someone who is...

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Things NOT to talk about on a first date

In our last article, we explored things to talk about on a first date. Now, we’ll get into things you shouldn’t talk about. Being aware of topics you should avoid is just as important as knowing what to say. After all, how your first date goes may well set the stage for your future together.  

  1. Don’t talk about yourself too much

    Try to have a conversation that is balanced, meaning that both you and your date have an equal chance to talk and contribute. You will never learn anything about another person if you are the one doing all the talking!

  2. Don’t get into explicit sex discussions

    Once you get to know each other better you can openly talk about sex acts, what you like, and so on. Broaching this topic on a first date may come across as a bit heavy-handed. Give yourselves some time to develop some camaraderie first.

  3. Don’t talk about money, religion or politics

    Much like explicit sex, these are all topics that can prove to be quite heated....

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How dating apps can ruin your chance of finding your soulmate

While you shouldn’t completely dismiss the idea of meeting your perfect match through a dating app, if you hinge all of your hopes and efforts on an app, you could ruin your chances of finding “the one”.

Dating apps are useful, but only if they are used wisely. The key is to know an app’s limitations and capacity for giving you what you really want. Because they are easy, convenient, and really good at helping you hook up, it’s easy to get stuck in an endless loop that’s really going nowhere.

How things can go wrong with dating apps

Even great inventions have their limitations. Here are some of the ways things can go wrong:

  1. Bad dating app experiences. You may encounter men who have open relationships, are cheating on their partner, are pretending to be single or who just want to hookup.
  2. Relying too much on the app. If you are constantly glued to the phone, your soulmate could walk right past you and you won’t see him.
  3. Thinking that there...
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