Things to talk about on a first date

First dates can be a source of anxiety for just about anyone – even the most confident among us! Keep in mind that there are certain topics you should definitely avoid—at least until you know each other a little better. We’ll tackle what not to talk about in the next article.

If you don’t want to be at a loss for words when you’re sitting across from your dream date, here are some great topics you can add to your repertoire when the conversation hits a lull:

  1. Have a sense of humor

    Dates are about having fun, and first dates, doubly so. If you can share a few laughs it will make for a memorable occasion. If you don’t consider yourself to be a “funny guy”, think about learning a few jokes in advance and get ready to light up his smile.

  2. Don’t make it feel like an interview

    Getting to know somebody will always involve asking questions. Asking what he is looking for in a guy is okay but try to keep it light. Frame your questions...
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Things NOT to talk about on a first date

In our last article, we explored things to talk about on a first date. Now, we’ll get into things you shouldn’t talk about. Being aware of topics you should avoid is just as important as knowing what to say. After all, how your first date goes may well set the stage for your future together.  

  1. Don’t talk about yourself too much

    Try to have a conversation that is balanced, meaning that both you and your date have an equal chance to talk and contribute. You will never learn anything about another person if you are the one doing all the talking!

  2. Don’t get into explicit sex discussions

    Once you get to know each other better you can openly talk about sex acts, what you like, and so on. Broaching this topic on a first date may come across as a bit heavy-handed. Give yourselves some time to develop some camaraderie first.

  3. Don’t talk about money, religion or politics

    Much like explicit sex, these are all topics that can prove to be quite heated....

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The truth about online dating

Last time, we talked about how dating apps could ruin your chance of finding your future partner. In this article, we will reveal more about online dating.

Why do I need to learn this?

Knowing more about online dating will maximize your chances of finding a potential life partner. If you lack adequate or accurate information, the “myths” of online dating might get in the way of achieving your goal.

What am I going to learn?

Knowledge will help you make better decisions.

Love & Marriage

63 percent of gay and lesbian singles are marriage-oriented. 25 percent say they have never wanted to marry.

When we compare the profiles of couples who have met online and paired up vs. singles, their online traits (the things they state on their profile) are almost identical.

The biggest differences are:

  1. The length of their profile

    Singles tended to have shorter profile descriptions (184 words) vs. the coupled, who used an average of 252 words.

    Conclusion: A longer online...

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How dating apps can ruin your chance of finding your soulmate

While you shouldn’t completely dismiss the idea of meeting your perfect match through a dating app, if you hinge all of your hopes and efforts on an app, you could ruin your chances of finding “the one”.

Dating apps are useful, but only if they are used wisely. The key is to know an app’s limitations and capacity for giving you what you really want. Because they are easy, convenient, and really good at helping you hook up, it’s easy to get stuck in an endless loop that’s really going nowhere.

How things can go wrong with dating apps

Even great inventions have their limitations. Here are some of the ways things can go wrong:

  1. Bad dating app experiences. You may encounter men who have open relationships, are cheating on their partner, are pretending to be single or who just want to hookup.
  2. Relying too much on the app. If you are constantly glued to the phone, your soulmate could walk right past you and you won’t see him.
  3. Thinking that there...
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5 BIG mistakes that gay men make when looking for relationships

Relationships are challenging - and starting them is even more so! So it’s no surprise that looking for the one can be overwhelming at times. However, there are some common mistakes you can avoid in order to move closer to meeting your ideal guy. 

 Mistake 1:

 Not being the best version of yourself

 How many times have you been told Just be yourself and everything will work out on its own?

It’s a lovely sentiment, and of course, you want to be loved for who you really are - but that doesn’t mean that relationships and dating don’t require effort.

The first step is self-awareness. None of us are perfect - but sometimes our imperfections can have a big impact on the people around us, especially those we are most intimate with. Typically, guys fall into two camps when it comes to understanding themselves. The first group is more aware of their strengths and weaknesses, and continuously work to improve themselves so that they can...

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Flirting the Right Way Will Get You That Soulmate You Always Wanted

Flirting is an art - and mastering it can bring you a lot closer to that soulmate you’ve been dreaming of. What’s more, it’s an essential part of romance - creating an atmosphere for attraction (and even love) to blossom.

So how can you master the art of flirting?

Of course, it’s not as easy as all that - flirting means putting yourself out there, and it’s very normal to feel shy, or panic that your crush will reject your attempt and turn you down. However, if you pick your time and place, and follow a few simple guidelines, flirting can be a very effective way of bringing you and the object of your affection closer together.

It doesn’t stop there, either - all healthy relationships, including long-term commitments, benefit from flirting to better sustain romance and passion. So here are a few pointers that’ll help you to find (and keep!) your dream man.

What is Flirting?

Flirting is a behavior that almost everyone indulges in from time to...

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Defining your Dating Relationships: How to Communicate What you want and get what you need

We’ve all been there. You’ve been on a few dates with a guy and generally assume that you are “together” - only to find out that his understanding of the relationship was less… exclusive than yours. If this resonates with you, you are in the right place.

 In this article, we will try to bring some clarity to the topic of “defining your dates”, shedding light on how different people view relationships - and the different things they may want from them. We’ll also show you how to identify and communicate what you want - giving you the tools you’ll need to ensure that you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to defining your dates.

 

Types of dating

 “Dating” means different things to different people, but at its most basic, it describes the early stages of an intimate relationship; a time when two people are getting to know each other, usually in an effort to determine whether there is the...

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How To Build A Stronger Relationship With Love Languages

Picture the scene - a couple is fighting in a movie. One yells ‘‘What do you want from me?!’ and the other replies “I just want you to love me!”

Chances are you’ll have seen this conversation in a dozen different movies - but what exactly do the characters mean?

 It might not seem it at first, but this is actually a very difficult question to answer. That’s because love is such a powerful, personal experience that language often struggles to truly capture what we mean when we talk about it.

 Love languages help here because they transcend just spoken language. Instead, they cover five key ways in which people communicate their love – and in doing so, offer an insight into the different expectations that people have of their partners. By understanding and mastering these languages, you can move closer to building a connection that stands the test of time. 

 

Why Is Talking About Love So Difficult?

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